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Livvy Hexum's avatar

Your advice in this article is invaluable to me. I have been in a frozen state of limbo, terrified to move in any direction for fear of causing more damage to my daughter. I feel mortified and ashamed it took me so long to figure out what was happening. You have armed me with the exact knowledge I have been relentlessy seeking and the confidence to move forward knowing not only what she needs most from me, but how to properly go about it without damaging her further. I cant thank you enough. Your book will be amazing. I will definately be buying. There isnt anyone I know who wont benefit from what you have to say. Amazingly insightful. Great writing!

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Andrew Folkler's avatar

Thank you Livvy! Feel free to ask any questions that you would like covered in future articles. :)

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Linda Kaizen's avatar

This is such a wonderful article with great tips. Thank you so much! Look forward to your book!

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Andrew Folkler's avatar

Thank you so much Linda!

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Judi Lynne Judy, M.A.'s avatar

Wonderful! Thank you for writing and for sharing this very important information. Judi

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Andrew Folkler's avatar

Thank you Judi!

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Sammie's avatar

Great read! Very informative and relatable. I look forward to your articles. You are a very good writer.

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Andrew Folkler's avatar

Thank you so much Sammie!

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Danielle Carbo's avatar

Thank you so much. This is so insightful! I've been doing the things that you mentioned and I will continue to do more of them. I'm fighting to bring my child back to me and I'm worried about the fallout, but I'm confident that once the unraveling occurs she'll be in a much safer and healthier environment. What are your thoughts on that?

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Andrew Folkler's avatar

Great question Danielle. In a way, this is like the classic trolley problem where on one end, your child endures the trauma of family court, and on the other they endure years of alienation and abuse.

There is really no good answer. I have seen some parents succeed by changing the way they communicate to the alienating parent to "stroke their ego" enough to let the child see them more often, but I can understand if some parents are highly resistant to that kind of tactic.

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