To go to court and drag your child through the legal process or to wait for your child to see the truth themselves? That is the question. - STRT January 2026
when I walked away from any immediate prospects for reunification with my alienated daughter, it was mostly self-protective: I was unwilling to continue submitting my self to her ill-treatment. I knew I had to take some responsibility for how I had been treated (I was the one who kept returning, with the same results). However, It was also always plain to me that her abuses of a once-loved father were only aggravating the harms done to her by the alienation, and causing her the psychological trauma of nearly unresolvable shame.
Well said and I am sorry to hear about your daughter's alienation. You are right to pull back so that you can put a stop to her participation in the alienation. Stopping it shows her that you will not allow that type of behavior. She may not see it now, but it is far better than teaching her to treat you like a doormat.
At the same time, I still think there is hope. In a way you can test the waters to see how ready she is for reunification by reaching out once in a while.
The famous samurai Musashi once said, "If your opponent thinks of the mountains, be like the sea. And if they think like the sea, be like the mountain."
Alienation is like a behavior rooted down and unwavering like the mountain, and so you must be like the sea, wittling it down, pebble by pebble.
Of course, continue to ensure she does not treat you poorly and pull away when she is being manipulative. Definitely do not reward her negative behavior. At the same time, the is an ebb and flow to it that will not bring immediate results, but hopefully compound over time so that reunification comes further down the road.
This article was incredibly informative, I have been actively preparing for reunification and it’s feels comforting to know I am doing the right thing for both of us. Thank you for all that you do !!! Finding your blog has greatly impacted me and helped me to feel a little less in the dark.
Very grateful for your articles, insights and perspectives. Your work gives so many of us hope, understanding and insight in so many ways... Hope 2026 is a wonderful, successful, happy year for you and your family... and continues to see your voice/writings spreading more hope & understanding across the world... Thank you!
Thank you! Wishing you and your loved ones an amazing 2026 and I hope that you are able to continue building your relationship with your child into something more and more beautiful. :)
Andrew, thank you as always for your writing and everything that you do for targeted parents and children! Wishing you and your family a very happy new year!
when I walked away from any immediate prospects for reunification with my alienated daughter, it was mostly self-protective: I was unwilling to continue submitting my self to her ill-treatment. I knew I had to take some responsibility for how I had been treated (I was the one who kept returning, with the same results). However, It was also always plain to me that her abuses of a once-loved father were only aggravating the harms done to her by the alienation, and causing her the psychological trauma of nearly unresolvable shame.
Well said and I am sorry to hear about your daughter's alienation. You are right to pull back so that you can put a stop to her participation in the alienation. Stopping it shows her that you will not allow that type of behavior. She may not see it now, but it is far better than teaching her to treat you like a doormat.
At the same time, I still think there is hope. In a way you can test the waters to see how ready she is for reunification by reaching out once in a while.
The famous samurai Musashi once said, "If your opponent thinks of the mountains, be like the sea. And if they think like the sea, be like the mountain."
Alienation is like a behavior rooted down and unwavering like the mountain, and so you must be like the sea, wittling it down, pebble by pebble.
Of course, continue to ensure she does not treat you poorly and pull away when she is being manipulative. Definitely do not reward her negative behavior. At the same time, the is an ebb and flow to it that will not bring immediate results, but hopefully compound over time so that reunification comes further down the road.
As always, I appreciate your support.
This article was incredibly informative, I have been actively preparing for reunification and it’s feels comforting to know I am doing the right thing for both of us. Thank you for all that you do !!! Finding your blog has greatly impacted me and helped me to feel a little less in the dark.
Thank you Kozbie Lamb! Stay tuned for the February article as it goes hand in hand with this one. :)
I will definitely stay tuned .
Very grateful for your articles, insights and perspectives. Your work gives so many of us hope, understanding and insight in so many ways... Hope 2026 is a wonderful, successful, happy year for you and your family... and continues to see your voice/writings spreading more hope & understanding across the world... Thank you!
Thank you! Wishing you and your loved ones an amazing 2026 and I hope that you are able to continue building your relationship with your child into something more and more beautiful. :)
Andrew, thank you as always for your writing and everything that you do for targeted parents and children! Wishing you and your family a very happy new year!
Thank you Alex! Wishing you and your family a Happy New Year as well! Stay tuned for February as the two articles will go hand in hand!